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How to trust someone? How? How to love with trust someone?
You can learn it but only with a deep understanding of how we are affected when trust is lost and how to heal and strengthen when our hearts break.
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I trust you but you trust me?
Why you don't trust your partner?
How do you begin to trust someone again?
Why I don't trust myself in a relationship
How to avoid getting hurt in a relationship
What is love in a biology aspect
How to prevent a betrayal
Don't be afraid to trust again
Internal disconession
Rigid character solutions
Distrust in relationships
How to overcome a couple crisis
How to mend the relationship
Let's summarize the steps above...
It takes time to build it, but sometimes it seems that there are enough moments to lose it. Lack of trust in couples creates gaps that are not easy to fill. But hey! If you and your loved one still want to be together, you can fill that gap. Respect and trust must be mutual. Otherwise, you run the risk of seriously ruining the story. It is normal for couples to have problems, doubts and misunderstandings. If you still believe in the relationship, it's important to work hard to make it even stronger and put the right parts in place. But how do you solve relationships and regain trust? Building trust is the basis of relationships and the starting point for living a story that makes us happy and calm. Trust is the foundation on which the story is built and solidified. It means trust and commitment in relation to the perception that the other person can be welcomed, supported and protected. For many, it is something that is acquired and should be acquired a kind of trading card, and a concession. From our point of view, trust should be understood as a gift to one another, primarily a generous act of oneself. Because it expresses a concrete desire to be involved by encountering new terrain for both of us to let go of the barriers. Trusting your partner means trusting and reassuring. It is really necessary to be comfortable as a couple. The point is that trust is not easy and is actually a daunting task. Other issues that cause relationships to question everything, especially when experiencing moments when we feel betrayed, abandoned, and misunderstood by those who say we love us. Reaction can make you feel self-conscious, angry at everything he does, lose respect and elicit aggression. Disputes arise when conflicts are sought and there is no solution. Because they just blame each other and feel their own suffering.
Distrust activated in the present relationship begins very early in our history and opens the wounds of distrust that normally exist in our subconscious. Resumption may even awaken the subconscious memory of past betrayal or robbery by children and even react disproportionately to the awakened person. It seems to correspond to all the mistakes we have suffered in the past, not just the mistakes we are suffering now. It is the people who are closest to us and most important to us who awaken this wound. Awakening this wound, whether it's a partner, parents, friends, or children, risks ruining or ending important relationships if it doesn't happen over time. In a state of fantastic trust, we believe that someone or something outside can make us happy. When this does not happen, we can feel very frustrated or desperate.
It is a sense based on the deep inner experience of being a supportive and caring person. All experiences, positive or negative, are solely aimed at helping us grow. Accepting pain as an integral part of this growth helps us continue to mature without fighting pain. This trust allows us to face all experiences without fear of being destroyed or overwhelmed by some. Such trust does not mean that we will never feel distrust. The latter can be tested for specific situations or people after a clear reading of reality, rather than reacting to our wounds. Consistent with what we are hearing, we can conclude that exposing our vulnerabilities is not safe enough. We understand that there is no absolute guarantee when we open the door to someone (despite our expectations), so we don't have to get angry with others. Therefore, it is a decision made based on clarity and acceptance of what things are going on, not on what they want to be. This kind of clarity, and therefore trust, allows us to open when we feel safe and welcome and close when the situation requires it.
As children, we experience imprinted forms, based on who we are, how our parents feel, and the restrictions they impose on us. Learn early on what we can and cannot do. Already as a kid, we blame ourselves for what we don't really have. Those who do not believe in themselves live in the legacy of the past and are afraid to do the wrong things. As far as the phenomenon of the "mirror of society" is concerned, the destructive criticisms we have experienced cannot be erased. People who have been bullied or banished at school and who grew up with parents who cannot thank them cannot change who they are. Admits that these are past experiences and can begin to be surrounded by people who can evaluate them. For now, we encourage you to be motivated, inspiring, and above all, surrounded by relationships, based on mutual gratitude. The quality of our relationships with others influences our sense of identity. Analyze how others make you feel. Do you feel guilty? Do you feel sick? Do they distract you from your feelings? Ask yourself if they make you feel this way or if it's you who makes you feel this way anyway. Try to provoke a working inner dialogue and identify which relationships are valuable and which relationships can add quality to your life and people. At the end of the day, when we are lying in bed, we can think of three good things we did throughout the day. You have to focus only on big and small wins. In this way, you can create a kind of "success diary" to write down the small tasks we are learning every day. Write everything in the Challenge Journal instead of waiting for big things. For example, you can write: you were content with yourself, rather than judging yourself about the mistakes you made. You took the initiative...
If you feel you need to develop love and trust, you may need more relationships. Spend time with your loved ones, meet friends, meet new people and try new things. But don't lose confidence. Some "trust exercises" are fun and can bring you closer to others without risking you. It's dangerous. A classic example is the "loss of trust" in which one realizes that one is in front of another and gradually withdraws so that others can take it. Fostering affection takes time and should not be forced. Everyone experiences relationships in different ways and at different speeds, but romantic relationships can be frustrating when one person becomes more or less attached to the other. If you feel you can't love or trust others, or if you're worried that your love for others may not be easy to develop, it's a good idea to see a doctor. As for you, mental health professionals aren't just for "fixing us when we break", they really help us understand what's normal and healthy. increase. A great way to contact a medical professional is to use online counseling. This is a system that allows you to connect with qualified professional psychotherapists quickly, conveniently and inexpensively via the Internet.
Love and trust are not emotions and tend not to be considered biologically, but our emotions always play a physical role in our body and carry a message called oxytocin in our brains. It is closely related to "molecules". Oxytocin plays a role in a variety of physical processes, but it creates a feeling of well-being and relaxation. Oxytocin has been shown to be very important in instilling trust and may also be important in the mental process of recognizing others. It describes the feelings you feel when approaching someone you trust, and the comfort and joy that many feel when you are outside a public place or home and meet someone you know. Oxytocin plays an important role in trust and affection. Oxytocin, often referred to as "embracing chemistry," is released when we make physical contact with others and plays an important role in strengthening our ties with our partners in romantic relationships. Oxytocin in the brain can at the same time lead to the development of trust and love. This is one of the reasons we can trust them because they are close to someone, even if they don't deserve it, and the people we trust are us, such as parents and children. This is one of the reasons why you can have a place in your life. Brothers, even if not tied to blood.
This is important because everyone feels helpless in life after the betrayal. So let's try to "prevent it". Here are some food for thought on relational communication. So it's like you walk into that painful fog and do nothing. But if you can say what you need to, you can help create an aggressive problem-solving atmosphere that stimulates rather than discourages. Be specific when expressing your needs. Even if you feel that way, you can't just say "be nice to me". Just said. You need to dig a little deeper. What makes you feel like others are nice to you. What if he laughs more often? Will it help me more around the house? Otherwise do you stop when you complain about how much you have struggled to work? These are specific. And you are likely to get them, you feel that others are giving you what you need. If you don't do anything else, at least let others know. What's your anger really? What matters is not your anger itself. Your partner is discouraged. They don't understand what's going on. You can do it. You get angry, but you have to contextualize. When You're Not Perfect See if others care about you and can continue. It prevents the terrifying possibility of her disappointment destroying your relationship. Finally, and most importantly, you can focus on getting what you need to feel safe.
Trusting a loved one means building a sense of security and calm in the couple that comes from trusting and trusting someone without feeling suspicious or anxious. It is important to try this attitude and build it with your own couple. This creates an adhesive between the two parties. You need to trust your love and reassure yourself that there are people you can count on, encourage and find solutions when things get difficult. Each of us seeks support from our partners, even if they are autonomous and independent, which is normal and part of the couple's relationship. And trust not only gives you peace of mind and security, but also gives you the freedom to be respected, heard, understood and loved and to be yourself. It's important to note that trusting is not easy, especially if you have a negative past experience of being fooled or fooled, such as being a victim of ghosting. And it's also very easy to lose or destroy it just because trust is very vulnerable. Maintaining a good relationship is a daunting task, building trust is an ongoing effort, and both sides need to work together. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. It's not easy to show your fragility, but breaking that wall can make you feel more comfortable with yourself and your loved ones. If you're not used to talking about the most intimate things, you can't suddenly change things. Start by creating a situation that feels comfortable to gradually tackle sensitive topics. Stay consistent. Building trust requires a consistent attitude between what we say and what we do. A clear example is to keep your promise, even if it's small. So if you promise to walk your dog on behalf of your lover, you have to do it. Spend time together. The quality of time spent together is a fundamental secret of trust, as it has a positive effect on the brain. When you touch, laugh, or hug, oxytocin is produced. This is a hormone that has a great effect on building health and satiety. trust. To the person you love.
Be there especially at the moment of "no". You can enjoy the time you spend together to the fullest, but unfortunately there are some difficult moments, so it's important to be loving. You shouldn't be afraid to share your problem with your partner or be seen as in a bad mood, especially when you feel sick, as there are people who really love you. Speaking is an easier way to build trust, so don't close yourself, just focus on communication. Don't judge. Criticism can be perceived in a dire way by others, even with the best intentions. Being free to act and talk with your partner means that you are not afraid to be judged or, worse, blamed. talk. Being told and repeated, we never get tired of repeating the importance of communicating with your partner. What do you think of betrayal if you don't tell them, because the person you love can know how you feel and what makes you happy or sad? And that's true for both. To tell the truth. Making mistakes is normal, but hiding mistakes and not apologizing does not help build trust. Instead, it helps to admit the mistake, get up and try again. Being with yourself and your partner will further strengthen your bond.
Internal separation is a mechanism that many people practice. That means choosing not to feel emotional so as not to suffer. It means "cooling" the mind to protect the soul from failure, disappointment, or unhealing wounds. This strategy actually diminishes from participating in a healthy life. Let's analyze a little about the purpose of the emotions we feel. Whenever they are activated in the brain, they provoke a reaction to our entire being. Enthusiasm and passion immerse us in dynamics that make us feel more energetic and creative than ever before. On the other hand, discomfort keeps us away from something or someone, but anyone who thinks that negative emotions serve no purpose or only make us unhappy is wrong. In fact, it is these emotions that have enabled us humans to learn, adapt and progress through evolution and lifecycles. Anxiety and fear are survival mechanisms and warning signs that we must be able to interpret in order to translate them into adaptive reactions that guarantee our integrity. Modern people find themselves exposed to different types of fear. These range from external threats and specific physical hazards to internal fears. These are personal demons who paralyze and choke us and definitely have other causes. Faced with the difficulty of dealing with these fears, we sometimes choose to use Internal Separation Syndrome as a defense mechanism. This should protect us from exposure to emotions that seem unmanageable to us, and we feel the risk of being overwhelmed. Imagine a normal person, a young man who has experienced emotional past failures for a moment. His disappointment was so great that the boy started a new stage in his life. It minimizes his emotional attachment. He doesn't want to suffer again or experience any other disappointment or disappointment. His defense mechanism to achieve these goals is now more sophisticated. He began a complex separation between thoughts and emotions until he "intelligent" everything. In this way, he always keeps his emotional isolation. He argues that: "I am happy alone. I think love is a waste of time and hinders my professional future." These are the preconditions for the onset of internal segregation syndrome. But here is an interesting fact. Not only do we risk building barriers to avoiding active participation in life, but we also risk falling into the same emotional void we are trying to protect ourselves.
If you have a strict personality, given the high degree of integration and development, there are many opportunities to grow through psychotherapy: in each case, the path is tailored to your needs, so based on the dominant subtype, psychotherapy will be one direction. Not different. But you will benefit from work aimed at restoring physical and emotional energy flow and integrating mental, cardiac and pelvic levels: a sense of duty, continuation to achieve goals. To be reconciled, loved, and completely loved with a positive behavior, a right to oneself and a right to accept others, a heart and sexuality. At bioenergy levels, exercises that focus on both the diaphragm and the arms are very useful because they help you lean forward rather than restraining or restraining you to give or receive love.
In a relationship, love provides the basis for starting a relationship between two people, but it is the trust that provides the glue that holds them together. Trust is based on a concrete and explicit agreement on what both partners expect from each other. When a new couple is formed, the partner makes some contracts about what is legal and what is not, specifically relationships with other people outside the relationship. We need to give unconditional trust so that relationships can develop, both partners are safe and can live in peace. Each person must be able to trust, set certain rules for the other person as needed, and give them the trust and commitment to respect the other person in consideration of the requests received. There are many types of consensus that can be created as the basis of a relationship, but what couples have in common is the boundaries that both partners in the relationship respect and the meaning of cheating (emotional and sexually closed). Etc.) is the fact that they have agreed on couples, sexually open couples). As long as both respect the agreement and stick to the contract, the couple will be stable and no one will suffer. In order for a love relationship to grow deeply, there must be trust. We need it, and so does our partner. Not all love in the world makes up for that lack. When a couple is endowed with trust and love, the relationship matures and succeeds. It's useful to use some small tricks to irrigate our ability to trust others: see which one. Let's deepen relationships. The closer you are to others, the less risk you are of falling into a distrust trap. Don't wonder in the absence of a clear situation or person. It's natural to be afraid to be disappointed when someone hurt you, but don't ruin it. Every story and every person is unique. Generalization does not help anyone, at least for all of you and your well-being. Remember that the discomfort that comes from distrust is primarily your harm. So think about the fact that past questions speak more than present questions. If you're having a hard time trusting someone, try making a list of the positive things that person has done or is doing for you. Does what you read support your opinion? In many cases, just remembering who is standing next to us is enough to get rid of the ghosts of the past. Ask what you are thinking and try to better understand the mechanism caused by asking small questions: what are you most worried about? Is thinking really fixed to facts or to perceptions that may be wrong? In short, make it more visible.
Faced with a moment of crisis is physiological in marital relationships. Dealing with others always requires good adaptability, renewal, and often the willingness to make sacrifices. Philosophy uses the phrase "I know about myself, how to stay negative with others." However, this ability is not innate and needs to be mastered because we love ourselves and couples. Relationships are a great opportunity for growth and a privileged path for awareness. But today, we are often alone, lacking the tools needed to turn an unfulfilled relationship into a mature relationship full of meaning and opportunity, opening up space for growth and achievement for both partners. I am. There are many difficulties: From the risk of complications typical of adolescents who relapse in adulthood to idealization or attachment, we are often forced to live in constant quarrels and restrictions. Conflicts are often consumed daily in front of our children. Children dominate in discussions and in the absence of dialogue, with inevitable consequences. Philosophers will help you specifically, following the path leading to renewal and achieving good mutual understanding. By learning to be with ourselves and practicing to discover the simple joys of life, we become more conscious, not afraid to inevitably feel like a couple, and get involved in regular scripts. Ready to fall back to these guys without being sick. Of the relationships we have already experienced and want to keep but have no power to do so.
Unfortunately, it is unrealistic to think about eliminating suffering from our existence. It is equally unrealistic to believe that sex alone is enough glue to heal a couple's fragility. Moreover, in a "fluid" society like us, the pursuit of stability and security in a stagnant state is an illusion. Human life is constantly evolving, fluid and dynamic, so we need to understand the peace and tranquility of the two. Must always be sought. Conquer through awareness, interaction and dialogue. Interactions and dialogues with both ourselves and each other. When love is at stake and emotional relationships are already at stake, the question "how to restore a husband-wife relationship" is often asked. Instead, it is important to assess the situation clearly and in a timely manner, immediately understand the room for recovery, and navigate together over difficult times. Consumer societies are accustomed to the word "throw away", but they need to learn the difficult technique of patching if possible. A well-performed restoration can result in embroidery where warps and wefts help decorate the structure of our lives. Sexual harmony is important for couples, but satisfying physical relationships is not enough to avoid discussions and conflicts. On the other hand, there are examples of couples who have achieved spiritual fellowship despite their shortcomings in the sexual field. If two partners are unable to overcome their difficulties on their own, it is important to seek the help of a competent professional who provides tools to understand and resolve the cause of the crisis. If couple therapy aims to identify those resources that make it possible to restore the well-being of a relationship, this does not mean that the couple must be kept together at any cost. Sometimes separation is the best solution at the end of the process that leads to leaving oneself without anger or resentment, leading a more satisfying life, and maintaining proper parental function. Instead of wasting time on a muzzle or silence, it's good to immediately clarify your position. Communication is important. With proper communication, diversity can be transformed into affluence rather than a source of conflict. To do this, it is important to recognize that verbal communication is limited if compassion, affection, and openness for others are not pervasive. Only if these ingredients are present, their experiences and feelings, recognizing that the partner may not have the same experience as us and therefore may not be partially or totally understandable. Can be fully presented and communicated. Profound dialogue is the essence of a couple's relationship and it's its glue. It's nice to notice that others are listening to you, participating in your emotions, and sharing your values and thoughts. In many cases, when a crisis occurs, everything seems to work as before, but it works drastically because there are no emotions, feelings, or common feelings. Misunderstandings, anger, resentment, and misunderstandings undermine this deep communication. It is only possible to recreate unity only by recreating true dialogue. However, while actual communication is very important, it rarely happens, especially during a crisis. Therefore, in many cases, if the dialogue cannot be restored, it is better to rely on a third party who can assist in the field to restore deep contact between the partners. In the course of treatment, it becomes possible to look at the problem from a different perspective and recognize the existence of "two truths". You learn to listen deeply to others and understand their complexity. When it turns out that they don't know everything else, it will be possible to open up time and space just for the couple.
In a relationship, love provides the basis for starting a relationship between two people, but it is the trust that provides the glue that holds them together. Trust is based on a concrete and explicit agreement on what both partners expect from each other. When a new couple is formed, the partner makes some contracts about what is legal and what is not, specifically relationships with other people outside the relationship. You need to give unconditional trust so that the relationship develops, both partners feel safe, and the relationship can live in peace. Each person must be able to trust, set certain rules for the other person as needed, and give them the trust and commitment to respect the other person in consideration of the requests received. There are many types of consensus that can be created as the basis of a relationship, but what couples have in common is the boundaries that both partners in the relationship respect and the meaning of cheating (emotional and sexually closed is the fact that they have agreed on couples, sexually open couples). As long as both respect the agreement and stick to the contract, the couple is stable and no one suffers. In order for a love relationship to grow deeply, there must be trust. We need it, and so does our partner. Not all the love in the world makes up for that lack. When a couple is endowed with trust and love, the relationship matures and succeeds.
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